I can do anything better than you!
Anyone heard this song? Remember it? It's often associated with boys and girls. And how girls can do the same thing a boy can do and often times better.
But in this sense....it's in regards to the hubs.
This man can do it all....and often times does!
There has been talk about more and more stay at home dads. Mommy goes to work and dad stays home. And it works! Now I am a working mom, and the hubs works as well. My oldest goes to preschool and my youngest stays with Grandma until he is old enough to go to preschool as well. But often times I do have to work a weekend....and it is then that Dad becomes the "stay at home dad" so to speak.
Now the talk is that dads who take a role such as this in their children's lives tend to have a closer bond with their children. I whole heartedly agree with this, I think the boys have a fab bond with the hubs because of the additional time they get to spend with him. Often times I will take one boy with me to the store....the other stays with the hubs and bonds. And we switch off who goes and who stays! If you aren't spending time with your children how do you expect to have a bond with them at all?
They also say that when the child is hurt or upset or inconsolable, it's dad that they run to and it's Mom who is jealous! I disagree! The hubs takes an active role in watching, bathing, story reading, consoling, babysitting, wrestling, cooking dinner....you name it, he does it! But I don't see that the boys run to him more often than mommy. It's usually when mommy is angry with Thomas that he wants daddy. But I think even if the hubs was home with them all day long, I think they still know who Mommy is.
Trust me on this....I dreaded going back to work and turning over the care of my child to someone else....OMG what if he forgets me? Not. gonna. happen. Ladies! Even if that person is Dad! I let go of all that mommy guilt about having to work a LONG time ago.
And I applaud all the dads who are choosing to stay at home with their children...be it Daddy day care, or Mr. Mom or The Modern Man as one dad called it on the Today's show...And even those dads who do it part time like The hubs....there are people out there who appreciate you. And often times, on the play ground, it's being found less and less that you are the divorcee spending guilt time with your child and more time being that you are the stay at home dad!
I know, I couldn't have picked a more controversial topic from the Today's show...but this is MY OPINION! Figures I do something so controversial for my 500th post....yep you read that right....this is my 500th post...JEEZE that is a lot! Welp...here's to another 500 more! =)
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i think its absolutely wonderful that dad's take a more hands on approach in parenting...our children are only benefiting when they have 2 parents actively involved in all aspects of their lives! my hubs is like that too...he has no problem throwing on the apron to make dinner, or having tea parties...i love it! happy 500!!!
First off, congratulations on 500 posts! I just did a similar post honoring my husband and father to our daughter. Dads are just the best. Thanks for writing this post for Mama kat's writers work shop.
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I agree! I don't have kids so I probably don't have any right to an opinion about it, but I'm gonna say it anyways. I think it's so important that dads are involved. I know lots of moms who don't really let the dads do a lot and then take on that martyr role. I've heard, "My husband's babysitting tonight," one too many times. Babysitting? Isn't it his kid too? My dad was just as involved with my upbringing as my mom was and it's a good thing for sure.
Congrats on 500 posts... WOW, that is a whole heck of a lot! What a great hubby you've got. Good for him for being an active dad & really taking part!
so glad that you have a hubs that takes an active role... I'm a SAHM with a wonderful hubby and he's great about being there whenever he can... and definitely steps up to being a parent ;) but it's hard because he's the major breadwinner...
We have a SAHD in our community who hangs out with all of us ladies at the pool/lake during the summer (he's a teacher during the school year). The funny thing about him is that he is so appreciative of the experience. Maybe it's because he only does it a few months out of the year and he has a job to go back to? Not sure, but a lot of times when I meet SAHD they seem so much more content with their role than many of my SAHM. Is it because it was more of a choice than an expectation for them? Maybe I shoulda written about this headline?! Lucky you for having a part-time SAHD at your house. Dumb Dad wouldn't last a week!
My husband was a stay at home dad for a short time last year while I worked part time cleaning houses. He did a really great job. I love when dads take on an active role in raising their children and not just sit on the sidelines and referee anymore. These are good times. :)
I have a fantastic, wonderful, amazing hubby too! Thankfully the roll of a father has also morphed into a more nurturing, hands-on approach over the years. My boys will be better fathers just by seeing and experiencing their dad's love and presence daily. Great post!
Wow 500 posts, congratulations!
I think that fathers are taking a more active role these days than it was when we were growing up. It sounds like you have quite a tag team going to take care of your children.
Great Post,
I think it's so awesome the way dads have taken an active role in parenting these days. When I was growing up most dads were just the breadwinners and disciplinarians, it was rare to see a dad really take time to bond, and especially rare to see them in a nurturing role. This change is just so cool!
I loved your post! I totally agree - I think it's wonderful that dads are taking on a bigger role and even getting a chance to stay at home. I don't know why it would be so controversial.. It's great for kids to have as much time as possible with both parents.
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My sister works so much that her husband has stepped in as the primary caregiver. I don't think she's jealous, just relieved. :)
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I'm not sure how controversial the topic was, but it makes perfect sense. As for women being scared the kids won't want anything to do with them, well, insecurity is exhausting. Good for you for giving your husband credit when it is due.
I think this may be the MOST controversial topic - anytime people discuss who is minding the kids, lines are drawn in the sand, and everyone is quick with their opinion or advice.
The only other topic that might have been defending Mel Gibson (oh, we've had THAT discussion at home, too - and it wasn't pretty).
500 posts!!! Woo hoo!!
And I just taught that song to my Little One ... now he sings it, which might not be a good thing.
I'm all for stay-at-home parents -- as often as either one can do it, they should!
Why on earth would anyone criticize a stay at home dad? I think that it's fabulous!
I love it that my husband is very "hands-on" with the kids...they just love him dearly!
Why on earth would anyone criticize a stay at home dad? Well considering women/feminists have been criticizing and ridiculing stay at home moms for the past 40 years, why is it wrong to criticize stay at home dads? If you want to see what people think of stay at home moms, try telling someone that you are bringing up your daughter to be a stay at home mom. I haven't seen anyone telling stay at home moms that they are "fabulous" have you?
You salute all stay at home dads? Why not stay at home moms?
You think fathers are essential to the well being of a child? So does that mean you're opposed to single mothers and lesbian mothers? Yeah, right.
Why would anyone be opposed to stay at home dads? Well the same reason you are opposed to stay at home moms: you're financially dependent on the working spouse, lack of fulfillment, lack of adult contact, depression, loneliness, not using your education, lack of equality, what are you going to do when the children are grown, what would you do in the event of divorce or disability of the breadwinner, etc, etc. There's an entire litany of criticisms of stay at home moms, but you can't understand why anyone would criticize stay at home dads? This is a joke right?
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